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Abuse

10 types of abuse (Source: https://www.scie.org.uk/safeguarding/adults/introduction/types-and-indicators-of-abuse)

1. Physical abuse

2. Domestic violence or abuse
  • psychological
  • physical
  • sexual
  • financial
  • emotional.
3. Sexual abuse
  • Rape, attempted rape or sexual assault
  • Inappropriate touch anywhere
  • Non- consensual masturbation of either or both persons
  • Non- consensual sexual penetration or attempted penetration of the vagina, anus or mouth
  • Any sexual activity that the person lacks the capacity to consent to
  • Inappropriate looking, sexual teasing or innuendo or sexual harassment
  • Sexual photography or forced use of pornography or witnessing of sexual acts
  • Indecent exposure
4. Psychological or emotional abuse
  • Enforced social isolation – preventing someone accessing services, educational and social opportunities and seeing friends
  • Removing mobility or communication aids or intentionally leaving someone unattended when they need assistance
  • Preventing someone from meeting their religious and cultural needs
  • Preventing the expression of choice and opinion
  • Failure to respect privacy
  • Preventing stimulation, meaningful occupation or activities
  • Intimidation, coercion, harassment, use of threats, humiliation, bullying, swearing or verbal abuse
  • Addressing a person in a patronizing or infantilizing way
  • Threats of harm or abandonment
  • Cyber bullying
5. Financial or material abuse
  • Theft of money or possessions
  • Fraud, scamming
  • Preventing a person from accessing their own money, benefits or assets
  • Employees taking a loan from a person using the service
  • Undue pressure, duress, threat or undue influence put on the person in connection with loans, wills, property, inheritance or financial transactions
  • Arranging less care than is needed to save money to maximize inheritance
  • Denying assistance to manage/monitor financial affairs
  • Denying assistance to access benefits
  • Misuse of personal allowance in a care home
  • Misuse of benefits or direct payments  in a family home
  • Someone moving into a person’s home and living rent free without agreement or under duress
  • False representation, using another person's bank account, cards or documents
  • Exploitation of a person’s money or assets, e.g. unauthorized use of a car
  • Misuse of a power of attorney, deputy, appointeeship or other legal authority
  • Rogue trading – e.g. unnecessary or overpriced property repairs and failure to carry out agreed repairs or poor workmanship
6. Modern slavery
  • Human trafficking
  • Forced labour
  • Domestic servitude
  • Sexual exploitation, such as escort work, prostitution and pornography
  • Debt bondage – being forced to work to pay off debts that realistically they never will be able to
7. Discriminatory abuse
8. Organizational or institutional abuse
  • Discouraging visits or the involvement of relatives or friends
  • Run-down or overcrowded establishment
  • Authoritarian management or rigid regimes
  • Lack of leadership and supervision
  • Insufficient staff or high turnover resulting in poor quality care
  • Abusive and disrespectful attitudes towards people using the service
  • Inappropriate use of restraints
  • Lack of respect for dignity and privacy
  • Failure to manage residents with abusive behaviour
  • Not providing adequate food and drink, or assistance with eating
  • Not offering choice or promoting independence
  • Misuse of medication
  • Failure to provide care with dentures, spectacles or hearing aids
  • Not taking account of individuals’ cultural, religious or ethnic needs
  • Failure to respond to abuse appropriately
  • Interference with personal correspondence or communication
  • Failure to respond to complaints
9. Neglect or acts of omission
  • Failure to provide or allow access to food, shelter, clothing, heating, stimulation and activity, personal or medical care
  • Providing care in a way that the person dislikes
  • Failure to administer medication as prescribed
  • Refusal of access to visitors
  • Not taking account of individuals’ cultural, religious or ethnic needs
  • Not taking account of educational, social and recreational needs
  • Ignoring or isolating the person
  • Preventing the person from making their own decisions
  • Preventing access to glasses, hearing aids, dentures, etc.
  • Failure to ensure privacy and dignity
10. Self-neglect
  • Lack of self-care to an extent that it threatens personal health and safety
  • Neglecting to care for one’s personal hygiene, health or surroundings
  • Inability to avoid self-harm
  • Failure to seek help or access services to meet health and social care needs
  • Inability or unwillingness to manage one’s personal affairs

Addictions

Alcohol Addiction Recovery

Overeating

Break-Ups

Bullying

Codependency
  • What is codependency? 
    It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual's ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. (Source: Mental Health America)

  • What causes codependency?
    Childhood trauma and growing up in a dysfunctional family is often a root cause of codependency. They don't always result, but for many people codependent relationships are a response to unaddressed past traumas. One reason may be that childhood trauma is usually family-centered: abuse, neglect, domestic violence, or even just divorce and fighting. While codependent traits help us cope with scary, confusing, and unpredictable family lives—it can cause us problems in adulthood (Source: Dr. Sharon Martin and brightquest.com)
  • How to start recovering from codependency.
    People who are in codependent relationships could be beautiful, fit and seem fine on the outside, but often have low self-esteem. In order to stop being codependent, you have to begin to value yourself. 
  • Recovering from codependency involves:
    1) Establishing boundaries
    2) Taking responsibility for your health and happiness
    3) Getting to know yourself
    4) Learning to love yourself
    (Source: Psychology Today)

Counseling

Generational Curses / Breaking Negative Generational Patterns

Grief

Suicide Prevention

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1-800-273-8255
The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals.

Healing

Healthy Relationships

Human Trafficking

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This page serves as a resource hub for thousands of documents on human trafficking and modern-day slavery.

Imposter Syndrome

Inner Child Wounds/Inner Child Healing

Insecurity

Loss

Mindset

Narcissism

Poverty Mindset

National Sexual Assault Hotline: Confidential 24/7 Support

Call: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

Seeking Validation

Self-Healing

Self-Sabotage

Shadow Work

Strongholds / Being Stuck / Trauma Bonds

Have you every stayed in a situation you knew wasn’t good for you, but you couldn’t leave? It’s as if you are stuck and maybe just don’t feel at all anymore. There are many layers, but the first step is realizing that you mind has been seized by your experiences.

A spiritual stronghold is a habitual pattern of thought and false perceptions, built into one's thought life. Satan and his minions want to capture the minds of people: the mind is the citadel of the soul. Once your mind is attacked, you will stay stuck in mindsets, behavior, and relationships that aren’t healthy. You become numb in life and imprisoned in your mind.

A stronghold of the mind is a lie that Satan has established in our thinking that we count as true but is actually a false belief. When we embrace these lies, they affect our attitudes, emotions, and behaviors. – Author: Rebecca Greenwood (Book: Defeating Strongholds of the Mind: A Believer's Guide to Breaking Free)

Toxic Habits / Toxic Relationships

Trauma Bond

Trauma Recovery

Triggers